A new psychology book reveals that habits like nail-biting and procrastination may serve as survival strategies rather than mere bad habits, according to clinical psychologist Dr. Charlie Heriot-Maitland.
A recent exploration into the psychology of habits suggests that behaviors such as nail-biting and procrastination are not simply bad habits; they may actually function as survival strategies employed by the brain. In his new book, “Controlled Explosions in Mental Health,” clinical psychologist Dr. Charlie Heriot-Maitland delves into the reasons why individuals cling to these seemingly self-destructive behaviors that often work against their best interests.
Drawing from years of clinical research and therapeutic practice, Dr. Heriot-Maitland argues that the brain prioritizes predictability and safety over comfort and happiness. “Our brain is a survival machine,” he explained in an interview with Fox News Digital. “It is programmed not to optimize our happiness and well-being, but to keep us alive.” This perspective sheds light on why individuals might engage in behaviors that seem counterproductive.
Historically, being caught off-guard could have dire consequences. Research indicates that “the brain prefers predictable pain over unpredictable threat,” Dr. Heriot-Maitland noted. In the face of uncertainty, the brain may choose smaller, self-sabotaging actions rather than risk larger, unpredictable dangers. The book posits that “the brain uses these small harms as a protective dose to prevent further harms.” For instance, while procrastination may induce stress and frustration, it can also serve to delay exposure to the more significant fear of failure or judgment.
The central thesis of the book suggests that behaviors often labeled as “self-sabotaging” might actually be attempts by the brain to manage discomfort. Thea Gallagher, a psychologist and wellness programs director at NYU Langone Health, emphasized this point, stating, “The central argument is that behaviors we label as ‘self-sabotaging’ could actually be attempts by the brain to control discomfort.” In contemporary life, many threats are emotional rather than physical. Feelings of rejection, shame, anxiety, and loss of control can activate the same survival mechanisms as physical threats, according to experts.
“Our brains have evolved to favor perceiving threat, even when there isn’t one, in order to elicit a protective response in us,” Dr. Heriot-Maitland explained. As a result, self-criticism, avoidance, and habits like nail-biting may serve as strategies to cope with perceived dangers.
While the book offers valuable insights, Gallagher pointed out that it relies more on clinical observations than empirical data. “That doesn’t make it wrong, but it means the claims are more interpretive than scientific,” she said, noting that further research is necessary to understand these behaviors on a mechanistic level.
Gallagher also highlighted the influence of external factors such as ADHD, trauma, chronic stress, and socioeconomic pressures, which can shape these behaviors beyond mere threat responses. Rather than viewing procrastination and similar patterns as flaws, the book encourages individuals to recognize their protective functions. However, Gallagher advises seeking professional support for destructive behaviors that could lead to severe distress or self-harm.
“I encourage my patients to think about short-term pain for long-term gain,” Gallagher stated. “If you just respond to discomfort and distress in the moment, you might find yourself in longer-term patterns you don’t like or want.” She added that while the book’s insights may not apply to everyone, they can resonate with many individuals.
Dr. Heriot-Maitland emphasized that individuals have a choice in how they address their potentially harmful habits. “We don’t want to fight these behaviors, but nor do we want to appease them and let them carry on controlling, dictating and sabotaging our lives,” he said.
For those who recognize these patterns in themselves, Gallagher shared practical advice. Instead of questioning, “Why am I like this?” she suggests focusing on the function of the behavior. For example, does it serve to soothe, numb, or distract from other fears or threats? “Observing the behavior with curiosity helps weaken the automatic threat response,” she advised.
This approach can involve utilizing grounding techniques, fostering supportive relationships, establishing predictable routines, and practicing self-soothing methods. Gallagher recommended gently introducing controlled uncertainty to retrain the brain, as it often fears unpredictability.
As individuals navigate their habits and behaviors, understanding the underlying motivations can lead to healthier coping mechanisms and improved mental well-being. The insights from Dr. Heriot-Maitland’s book provide a framework for re-evaluating habits that may have long been viewed as detrimental.
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